The reward is great.”īrown discovered that trying to fit in does not accomplish a sense of belonging but finding ways to trust others and our own selves, does. “You are only free when you realize you belong no place-you belong every place-no place at all. Her research into belonging began with a quote, and then a meeting with, the philosopher, poet, author, and activist, Maya Angelou.

At some point she felt disconnected from her own parents and family. As a teen she was not chosen for the high school cheerleading team. As a child she moved to a number of new communities. She shares how she felt a sense of loneliness and disconnect. In true Brene Brown style, she shares her own struggle, confusion and journey of seeking a sense of belonging. We can talk about how we feel without judgment.Įxtending the most generous interpretation to the intentions, words, and actions of others.The shame and vulnerability researcher, Brene Brown has written another book that informs, pleases and inspires– Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone. I can ask for what I need, and you can ask for what you need. I need to know that my confidences are kept, and that you’re not sharing with me any information about other people that should be confidential.Ĭhoosing courage over comfort choosing what’s right over what’s fun, fast, or easy and practicing your values, not just professing them.

You don’t share information or experiences that are not yours to share. You own your mistakes, apologize, and make amends.

At work, this means staying aware of your competencies and limitations so you don’t overpromise and are able to deliver on commitments and balance competing priorities.

Setting boundaries is making clear what’s okay and what’s not okay, and why Here are the seven elements of the inventory. It’s a relational process that, when practiced well and within a safe container, transforms relationships. Each person fills it out independently, then meets one-on-one to discuss where experiences align and where they differ. We use this inventory in a similar way to how we talk about values.

Braving the Wilderness by Brené Brown